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I am quite sure most of us have heard the term, “Happy Wife, Happy Life.” And frankly, the same applies to our children. As mothers, we are doing everything in our power to make sure our children are healthy AND happy. Rightfully so, but by the time the kiddies are tucked away, mom is tuckered OUT! Nothing rings truer, than Happy Mom, Happy Child…I mean there might be a few other options…but this one is up there with the best of them.
On a personal note, I have noticed that my insanely hectic schedule, my business trips…[you can view blog post on how I handle travel without my daughter here]…the PTA’s, the household errands etc…were starting to affect my stress levels a great deal. I felt myself becoming anxious, always rushing, over analyzing and a bit less tolerable of the crayons on the floor. My happiness is not only affected, but the happiness of my child. After all, our children are little mirrors, constantly absorbing information, and will most likely replicate our behaviors. So I have decided to make a change, and I started with my routine.
As you are in the midst of reading this blog post, take a second mom, and ask:
When is the last time I have done something for myself? What do I do (on a regular basis), to take care of me?…
*10-Second Thought Break*
…What was the answer ?
If you have an answer, great ! Keep doing whatever it is you are doing. It’s amazing!
If you couldn’t find your answer…you are not alone.
Self care is something that cannot be talked about enough. Especially for those of us who are constantly caring for others. Self-Care is a multi-layered topic and at first glance you my not even know where to begin…but I constantly remind myself to:
Start with small goals. Do something that you truly enjoy. It may not be possible every day of the week…but we can start with once a month perhaps? Graduate to once a week?
Small changes in our routine, build up our morale over the course of our busy schedule.
Let me be the first to say, that I am not a morning person. I am a night-owl but…motherhood. So, instead of viewing the mornings as such a drag, I’ve committed myself (and BOY is it a commitment) to begin my mornings with nothing but positive thoughts. Since my decision, it has catapulted me to:
Wake up Earlier– as if us moms don’t wake up early enough…Do we even sleep? Whaaaat? I start my mornings at least 30 minutes to 1 hour earlier than usual, and with that I now have time to:
- Pray/Meditate – taking a moment just to embrace waking up, to pray, find inspirational scriptures and/or quotes. This allows me not to begin with a marathon of thoughts, but to clear my headspace and gradually build up to the day, with enough (mental) strength and energy.
- Listen to calming or inspiring music
- Sit down and eat a decent (light AND healthy) breakfast.
Habitually, I have skipped out on breakfast for myself for longer than I remember, however since my road to happiness…breakfast is a MUST. I’ve recently been inspired by one of my favorite health/wellness and lifestyle bloggers thus far, Happy Healthy Tash! Tash is always surprising me with some yummy goodness on my timeline that you just have to try! Seriously moms, easy to make breakfast recipes when you’re short on time! What more could you ask for!
Fave breakfast recipe:
Here’s another fave (Good for the kiddies too!): Banana, Blueberry & Peanut-Butter Toast
You guys can check out Happy Healthy Tash’s blog posts, over on her blog page. Clink the link below, to read more yummy health recipes, for any time of day:
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I am a working mother, with a full-time 40+ hour a week job, but I feel like this next tip can apply to ANY mom. No matter your occupational status…we are ALL busy bee’s.
More often than not, we overindulge in what we are working on, and do not stop to take a break! Gone are the days where I work through my lunch! Not because I do not want to work, but because one needs to give the mind a break. Take the time to reset and gain your second wind before you continue on.
As much as we would like ourselves to believe it…we are not robots mom.
Avoid the burnout.
Even for the short time you are on a break (5 mins, 15 or 30 mins), find something that calms you. For me, it is un-gluing myself from the desk and stepping outside for some fresh air. On a beautiful day a short walk helps me to clear the clutter from my mind. On a rainy day, even sitting in my car listening to the rain drops is soothing.
Do what works for you.
Evenings can often be the busiest, especially with little ones. Make dinner, homework check, bath time…clean up after EVERYBODY. The dog too! I have learned…the hard way…to be honest with myself about my energy levels. I am supermom, whether I organize the utility closet tonight or not. After everyone has gone to bed for the night, try finding solitude. Even if only for 10-20 minutes before bed. Digress from the day so your subconscious is not working overtime while you sleep.
Just as you took a few seconds above to hear your own thoughts, it is beneficial to create the same time for yourselfthroughout the day/week/month. No one will create it for you mommy.
Some quick suggestions to help you relax. Why not treat yourself ?! You deserve it!
Aroma therapy anyone? Bath time? Also great to gift to a mommy in need of some R&R!
#MomsCafeBlog would love to hear from you! Leave in the comments, some of your favorite ways to unwind. If you have a specific “down-time” regime, to maintain your “Happy Mom” status share your #Momstory.